Have you ever had an argument with your spouse, and you literally do not know how you are going to recover from it?
I remember having one of those with my now darling husband when we were dating. I went to bed, with him in the other room, thinking “I have no idea how to get out of this. I can’t find anything to apolgize for on this one!” I prayed that he would be able to reflect and figure this out for both of us this time. Thankfully, he did.
He woke me up with tears streaming down his cheeks. “I blamed you” he said……”I am so sorry.” At that moment, ALL was forgotten and forgiven……”It’s OK” I exclaimed as I reached out for him. His ability for reflection and ownership on this one broke my heart open so wide, deepened our intimacy and catapulted the trust another HUGE notch.
Blame breaks down trust, and turns a once loving ground into a battle ground. So the next time you feel yourselves veering off your highest ground together….and you will….ask yourself, “What I am responsible for?” Stay focused there, and express this from a sincere heart. You will find your partner reaching out for you too….and then there you are …..back to lovin’ each other…..woo hoo!
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